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I turn 30 years old tomorrow. It’s one of the big ones, right? :) Another decade behind me while another stretches out before me. Halfway to 60 and one-third to 90 (haha). I started reflecting on the past ten years of my life…from college student to business owner and everything in between, and realized that I have learned much. Annnnnnnnnnnnd…I have much left to learn.
So, in no particular order, some serious and some silly…
30 Things I Learned in my 20′s
1. Always follow the Lord, even when other people don’t understand or tell you to do the exact opposite. You shouldn’t let other people dictate your days and, therefore, your life.
2. You can throw your husband’s sneakers like tomahawks to kill centipedes and spiders when he’s not at home. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. Always be prepared with your cat and a vacuum cleaner just in case (in my case, the vacuum cleaner is way faster than the cat).
3. It’s okay to know every single song in every single Disney movie and to randomly sing them.
4. I really do have to use algebra in the real world. I’m not telling my high school algebra teacher that…even though he goes to my church. You know, keeping him humble and all…
5. Falling does not equal failing.
6. Spontaneous dance parties are the BEST. At home, on the side walk, at the studio, in a box, with a fox…
7. I never get tired of watching “Gilmore Girls” on my –ahem– entire collection of DVDs. And yes, I understand that one day my children will ask me, “What’s a DVD, Mom?”
8. I can’t follow a leader who I don’t respect, so I need to be the kind of leader who other people respect enough to get behind. I’ve learned from watching others that the best leaders have humility, integrity, servants’ hearts, listening ears, and authentic behavior. The best leaders are with the people…not far-removed or “above” the people.
9. People you can be yourself with are rare, treasured gifts.
10. My grandparents are, perhaps, the wisest and most godly people I know. I strive to emulate their prayer life and humility.
11. Every day can be an adventure…whether you are at home or a thousand miles from home. Adventure is a state of heart attitude.
12. Writing a thoughtful note to a person “just because” is a sweet gift to them!
13. If you want to have good friends, you have to BE a good friend first.
14-21. “People are unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered. Love them anyway. If you do good, people may accuse you of selfish motives. Do good anyway. If you are successful, you may win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable. Be honest and transparent anyway. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway. People who really want help may attack you if you help them. Help them anyway. Give the world the best you have and you may get hurt. Give the world your best anyway.” -Mother Theresa
22. It’s okay and exemplified by God to take a rest. You are at your best when you take time to rest!
23. God delights in doing the impossible.
24. God ALWAYS keeps His promises.
25. Marriage is truly a partnership. It’s not one of us against the other…it’s both of us, together with God, facing the world.
26. Owning my own business is truly the most rewarding and challenging thing I have ever EVER done. It is so worth it!
27. It’s important to recognize the times that I need to stand up for myself and the times that I need to let God fight for me. Looking back over these past ten years, the things that were so scary to me at the time are not so scary anymore.
28. We judge each other based on our actions. We judge ourselves based on our intent. I didn’t make that up…I feel like it was a quote that I read, but a good one!
29. Starting off my day by spending a lengthy time in God’s Word, working out, and with my fella (and the Fur Child) keeps me sane and grounded. I’ve been training myself not to even turn on my phone or look at my computer until after I’ve done all of those things.
30. We make the whole “living life” process hard, but God simplifies it in His Word: “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humblywith your God.” -Micah 6:8
I can’t wait to see what the Lord will do in my thirties! To all who have invested in me and imparted your wisdom to me, thank you.
I’ve come to dislike the phrase “raising awareness” over the past few months, putting it right down there on my list with things such as using the word ”tolerance” to mean “your beliefs are cool as long as you agree with the popular opinion at this time and are not a conservative Christian” and “just saying” at the end of a slur because you think it softens the blow of your meanness. Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s great to raise awareness for causes that are near and dear to our hearts. Seth and I have been a part of many projects to raise awareness in the past, and I know we will continue to do so in the future. If “raising awareness” means educating people on the evils and injustices of our world and how they can stop them, then I am all for it. If it means educating people on how to love and treat others better, then I am all for it. But, I have come to realize that many times it means something completely different.
I’ve never been a fan of talking for attention or making myself look good because of all the “good things that I do to save the world.” I feel that personal integrity and a genuine desire to change the world for the good trump my need for people to know that I’m concerned and working to change injustices. I will ALWAYS speak up for what I believe is right (and social media can be a good place to speak up), but I always ask the Lord before posting if this is going to bring glory to Him and change things or if it’s just going to bring attention to me. It’s a fine line, and I’m certainly not perfect at walking it.
What really made me dislike the phrase “raising awareness” was a book that I read on the Pennsylvania anti-slavery movement of the early 1800s. What many people do not realize is that Pennsylvania was a slave state until the 1840′s (especially west of the Susquehanna River). And yet, all escaped slaves east of the Appalachians HAD to cross through Pennsylvania to escape to freedom, so the views held by Pennsylvanians of the day and the laws that were in place were very important. Quakers and other courageous men and women motivated by the desire to serve the Lord and their belief of freedom, helped many slaves escape via the Underground Railroad at the risk of their very lives. The anti-abolitionist groups would seize their property and businesses by deceit and many of these courageous folks were even killed for doing what they believed to be right. THAT is sacrifice.
Here’s what really got me: The Underground Railroad (specifically in Pennsylvania) was so secretive that even today, in 2014, we don’t know nearly as much about it as we do in other states. Many of the people who were conductors of the Underground Railroad in Pennsylvania went to their graves keeping their sacrifices a secret.
Would we do that today? Or would we Facebook, “Led a group of slaves to freedom last night. #slaverysucks ” to see how many likes we could get on our status?
ANYONE can sit in the safety of their home or behind the shield of their computer screen and write that they hate human trafficking or abortion or world hunger. But the people who were the conductors of the Underground Railroad, the people who hid Jews during Hitler’s reign of terror, and many people who fight injustice today cannot even speak about what they do and where they are because there are lives at risk.
I believe it begs an honest assessment of our hearts: are we “raising awareness” to stand for a worthy cause, or are we simply “raising awareness” of ourselves and how awesome/caring/concerned we are?
And, if you are a Christ-follower like I am, there is an even deeper question to ask yourself: are you serving and doing good because it makes you look good and saintlike in public, or are you serving and doing good because it’s what Christ commands you to do?
Today is my first official day back to work at the studio after a much-needed three week break. It’s been an amazing break that I am deeply thankful for. Many people don’t know that, for the first five years of me opening and running Reverence, I worked an additional full-time job. That job was a huge blessing to me as a single person who owned a business and then Seth and I as we navigated the roller coaster ride of owning a business as a married couple, and I am really grateful for the Lord’s provision of it. Because I had responsibilities at my other job, I was not always able to take off many days during the times that the studio was closed on a break, so I have really enjoyed being able to take off an entire three weeks last year and this year.
What did I do over my break? I’ll sum it up in one delicious word: unhurried.
I spent lots of unhurried time with the Lord…
I spent lots of unhurried time with Seth…
I spent lots of unhurried time with my family and friends…
I spent lots of unhurried time outside…
I spent lots of unhurried time playing with Prince Caspian…
I spent lots of unhurried time reading, journaling, and watching movies (the kids at the studio were peer-pressuring me–haha–to watch all the Tinkerbelle movies, so I unashamedly did. they were adorable)…
I spent lots of unhurried time sleeping (those who know me well know that I wake up between 5:30-6AM each day, and my “sleeping in” is considered to be 7:30 or 8AM. You will be pleasantly surprised to learn that there were several days where I slept in until 10AM!)
You might also know that Seth and I went on a little adventure to Washington, Alaska, and Canada during this time as well. These past few years have been pretty crazy-full, so we decided to take some time off during the studio’s off season this year and do some exploring of the beautiful Pacific Northwest. We’ve been wanting to go for quite some time, so we decided to save our pennies and just do it. It was BEAUTIFUL.
It was an amazing trip for many reasons, but it was really GREAT to be with Seth for 12 uninterrupted days. It was really GREAT to be outside in nature and put all those things that have been clouding the periphery of my vision for the past few months behind me. I had some GREAT times with the Lord–just praising and worshipping Him. Seth and I sought the Lord together for our future, Reverence Studios, and more. I came back with clarity on some changes that I need to make in my life and some boundaries that I need to put in place again.
Great trip. Deeply blessed. Great break. Deeply blessed. Ready to be back to work, but I said goodbye to the old workaholic, people-pleasing Kirsten who felt like she had to work 120 hours a week and justify every decision to every single person. And you know what? It feels good. I’m still going to be the hard-working, determined, and compassionate person who God created me to be, but I’m turning 30 next week and it’s time to make some changes and leave the bad stuff behind.
Also. I saw a humpback whale’s tongue up close.
The Barefoot Sisters Southbound was one of the most interesting and disgusting books I have ever read. It was written by these two sisters (Lucy and Susan Letcher) who walked the length of the Appalachian Trail from Maine to Georgia…barefoot (although they did wear shoes in the worst of winter). Things I learned from this book:
1. People who walk the entire Appalachian Trail smell really bad, but they do not care. They make up cool Trail Names for each other, connect with each other, and help each other out along the way.
2. A hiker’s appetite is a beautiful and disgusting thing to behold. I’m talking…whole pizzas, onion rings, half gallons of ice cream all in one sitting.
3. Not only is walking the AT a physically demanding thing to do, but it is a mentally demanding thing to do. But, everyone says it is extremely worth it and everyone who has hiked it once, longs to do it again.
Susan and Lucy actually yo-yo’d and hiked back to Maine once they reached Georgia. If you are interested in hiking, the Appalachian Trail, or interesting reads, I would highly recommend it!
People always ask me about my favorite moment of the recitals, and there are always many. This year was no exception. I loved the dance that one of my students did with a high school girl who is wheelchair bound (there wasn’t a dry eye in the audience…or backstage after they were done). I loved all the unpredictable moments that happen with live performing…shoes and hairpieces flying off mid-routine, the little ones ordering their classmates around on stage, surprising the audience with different props and tricks and dancing down the aisles. I loved the creativity and originality and worshipful spirit myself and all my staff put into their choreography this year (we try to take it up a level each year). I loved the joy in all the dancers faces as they danced their hearts out. I loved the atmosphere backstage (and I think this is the first year no dancer lost a tooth and handed it to one of the staff at the finale, haha). I love seeing the students grow each year and all the years they have danced at Reverence. I love feeling the Lord’s presence each year. I love hearing the feedback from the audience about a particular dance that was especially fun or meaningful to them. I love all the volunteers who give of their time to help out at these recitals. I love to dance myself and give glory to God. I love the feeling of victory–only by the grace of God–that I feel at the end of each show. I love all that.
But, do you want to know my absolute favorite moment of recital day?
There is a moment that I take every single year after every single show to walk out on the stage. It’s quiet then, that stage. All the performers have left. All the tape has been pulled up from the floor. Pictures have been taken, flowers have been distributed, hugs and cheers have been given. We’ve cleaned up all the programs left in the audience and searched for lost and found. Seth has broken down all his camera equipment, my friends and family have torn down all the sales and backstage things. I have said, “Copy that” into the walkie talkie one last time, garnering the laughter of myself and all my students since I do not know walkie talkie etiquette. Everything is quiet in that moment that I walk out onto the stage one last time each year.
And there I stand, in the presence of my God, taking a moment to truly think of the magnitude of what just happened and giving thanks to Him for all of it. That is my favorite moment. Tears trickle down my cheeks as I think of all the feet and wheels that danced across this stage and how God used every single dancer. And I am grateful for everything…the joys, the challenges, the imperfections, the people, and Reverence. Nothing happened without Him knowing about it beforehand, and I am thankful.
People who have been business owners longer than me have often talked about the resilience required to be a small business owner, and it’s true. Resilience is not formed during the easy times. It’s formed during the difficult, challenging times.
And, only by the grace of God, here I stand.
Is it really the end of April? Is it really almost the end of the school year? Time surely is a-flyin’ by and most of us don’t stop to realize how quickly it passes each moment…each hour…each day…each year. One of my goals for 2014 is to stop and savor every moment…the large and the small, for they are all valuable and precious.
“Be daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary.” -Cecil Beaton
Even though we had snow and ice on April 1 (April Fool’s from Mother Nature, haha), the past few weeks have been shaping up to be beautiful. We’ve had 80 degree days, 50 degree days, and a myriad of weather in between, so Seth and I have been trying out some different hiking trails in Central PA. We love to hike, be together, and unwind from the week.
Prince Caspian has been thrilled that we’ve been able to have the windows open. He loves to creep on the neighborhood from his little bubble.
I always hesitate to write about how busy things are because, let’s face it…everybody is busy. I don’t want to be the subject of a meme! :) But, things are busy. This is my ultra-busy season of the year, but it is also the most fun! I love, love, love our recital season at Reverence because God always does incredible things! It is so awesome to see the fruit of the labor the students, staff, and I have invested in throughout this school year.
Time is so precious! I pray that you would each savor every moment and live life to the fullest for His glory!
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